pg. 49--
If you find yourself jealous of anyone, do yourself a favor and get over it.
pg. 50--
Anger reflects feelings of inferiority. We need to relate to other people as equals, with no need to feel better than them and never feeling inferior.
What he can do is strive to be the best he can in this life and NEVER compare himself to anyone else.
When we are jealous of another person it prevents us from enjoying them.
Masks of Anger:
Cold-shoulder mask--pretend to not be angry
Mask of Avoidance
Scripture Mask--misusing scripture
pg. 64--
As long as we are still talking about our wounds, we have not gotten over them.
Self-deception is a way of hiding from the truth.
pg. 69--
Angry people cannot love properly because what is in us always comes out of us in some way. Anger had been a part of me for so long that I didn't recognize it for what it was.
pg. 74--
Why are we angry with ourselves? because we have unrealistic expectations and we compare ourselves with others and feel we don't measure up. We feel so guilty we become angry at ourselves. Most often, people are angry at themselves because they do things they don't approve of and then don't know how to receive God's forgiveness and power to overcome their unacceptable behavior.
First step toward peace: Look squarely at your sin in the face and recognize it for what it is.
Second step: Admit we are sinners and repent of our sins.
pg. 76--
Often we ask for forgiveness and fail to receive it. After asking, tell Him you receive His gift and wait in His presence for a moment to actually take it into your consciousness how wonderful that gift really is.
pg. 78--Satan tells us that we are weak and cannot resist even the simplest of temptations, but God tells us we are strong in Him and nothing is beyond our ability to resist. What we choose to believe is the deciding factor in whether we will cave into sin or defeat it.
What we believe is our reality, therefore, it is vital for each of us to know that what we believe is the truth and not a deception.
pg. 90--
Reasoning--Man in his natural state wants to understand everything. We want control and we don't like surprises. Trying to figure out something that we are never going to get answers to is very frustrating and perplexing.
pg. 91--
God is beyond our understanding.
pg. 103--
Righteous anger--lets us know when we or someone else is being treated unjustly. Its purpose is to motivate us to take godly action to rectify the wrong. Righteous anger always takes action that is intended to help.
Many are angry about injustice, but do nothing. Often have attitude of hopelessness. They decide nothing will do any good, do they don't bother to try.
pg. 108--Is Anger Valid or Distorted?
The things people do that make us angry could be the result of something wrong in us instead of something they are doing wrong. Probably a large percentage of people who are quick to get angry do it out of a wound in their soul they have never let heal. If a person is insecure, they often respond to others in anger if they don't agree with everything they think, feel, and say. They perceive all disagreement as rejection, and the problem is really theirs, not the person they are angry at. Insecure people need a lot of positive feedback in order to feel good about themselves, and when they don't get it, they become angry.
pg. 111--
He only wants what's good for you, even if He packages it differently then you'd hoped.
pg. 150--
In reality, we all do what we want to if our desire to do it is strong enough. "I can't" usually means "I won't".
pg. 151--
If you have no desire to forgive, then start by asking God to give you now because it is the foundation of all success.
pg. 152--
After you have a desire to forgive, then you must DECIDE to do it. Decision cannot be an emotional one, but must be a "quality decision". This decision doesn't change when feelings change. It is a firm decision.
DEPEND on the Holy Spirit to help you do what you just made a quality decision to do. Willpower alone doesn't work.
In God's kingdom, independence is not an attractive trait, and it is not one that works. The more spiritually mature we become, the more dependent we are to become on Him. If we miss this point in our walk with God, we will always be frustrated.
pg. 156--
Why do we like to do things ourselves without any help? Simply because we like to get the credit and we like to feel proud of our accomplishments.
pg. 159--
We should be more concerned about what our enemies are doing to themselves by evil deeds than what they are doing to us.
pg. 169--
If we are controlled by our emotions, Satan has control over us.
pg. 170--
Your feelings are not the real you. If we decide to do the right thing no matter how we feel, our feelings do eventually catch up with our decision. In other words, we can't wait to feel right to do right. Do not consult your feelings at all when making a decision.
6 Attitudes That Reveal Forgiveness
1--Unforgiveness always keeps score
2--Unforgiveness boasts of its good behavior
3--Unforgiveness complains
4--Unforgiveness alienates, divides, and separates
5--Unforgiveness continues to bring up the offense
6--Unforgiveness resents the blessings enjoyed by the offender
pg. 206--
God never asks us to give to another what He has not first given to us. Unconditional love, mercy, forgiveness, etc etc.
pg. 208--
Mercy=Kindness beyond what is reasonable
pg. 210--
God is never surprised by our mistakes and carnal ways.
pg. 211--
We are usually unaware of what we do to hurt others, but we are very aware of what they do to hurt us, so we need to give mercy to others.
pg. 215--
Characteristics of Merciful Attitude:
1--Mercy understands
2--Mercy does not expose people's faults
3--Mercy doesn't judge
4--Mercy believes the best
5--Mercy is for everyone
pg. 226--
It is a fact we forfeit our joy to hang onto our anger.
pg. 229--Rage and anger.....are problems that seem to exist much more or perhaps even exclusively in affluent countries. Poorest parts of the world are grateful for low-paying jobs. They aren't getting angry at cell phones or cars, or co-workers.
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